You could however bring it up over tea..at a later date of course.

Don't make the mistake of thinking the person you are arguing with wants to hear how they themselves do the very thing they are accusing you of doing. Nothing could be farther from the truth.

What they want is for you to accept responsibility for your grievous actions so we can put this whole ugly business behind us. Anything less is going to drag everyone down a long sulky road of irritation and possibly name calling.